PrivacyFence tells Claude Desktop truthfully what each tool does: reads are read-only, writes are writes, and the two tools that delete something are marked destructive. Claude Desktop uses that to decide when to ask you before it calls a tool, so it may ask before a write, in front of PrivacyFence's own card.
When it asks, you can allow the tool for the rest of the chat or always. Allowing it only stops Claude Desktop asking: a gated call still waits for PrivacyFence's approval card, whatever Claude Desktop was told or allowed. There is no mode that advertises writes as read-only.
What we observed with the extension: with default tool permissions, Claude Desktop asked before creating a calendar event; choosing to always allow the tool stopped it asking, and PrivacyFence's approval card was still shown. The custom connector has not been checked yet.